There are countless times when friends and clients come to me complaining about other people in their lives. People who are driving them crazy! People who are rude! People who are insensitive! People who don’t believe in them! People who have hurt them! All these people are ruining the lives of innocent people everywhere!
My response to them is, “so, what are you going to do about it?” You can always take an action to get more of what you want and less of what you don’t want. If you are busy complaining about other people then you are just as big as a culprit as them. Yes, their judgment and non-acceptance of you is probably very annoying AND you are guilty of doing the exact same thing to them. In your non-acceptance of people’s behaviours, beliefs, and actions….you are judging and rejecting them.
Most people just sit there and complain about people, things, and circumstances that are keeping them stuck and away from more happiness. Did you know that every second that you spend focusing on the garbage that you don’t want in your life is:
A) Actually time spent on creating more of what you don’t want because what you focus on grows – no exceptions.
B) Time that is lost FOREVER – you can never get it back.
I beg you with every ounce of my being to do yourselves a favour and stop creating your own hell on earth! Ask yourself what you want and write a list of possible actions that you can take to help you to move along your path to wholeness. Stop berating yourself and others for not living up to your expectations. Write them a letter about your feelings, have a direct conversation, join a meetup group to find like minded individuals, get involved in activities that interest you, finally start that business you’ve wanted, enroll in a language class, book a trip to see a new part of the world, apply to more fulfilling jobs, go back to school, and refuse to get sucked into other people’s drama. These are just some of the actions that you can take to get you to where you want to be! Do whatever it takes to get you one step closer to where you want to be….do it with ethics and integrity!
One of the biggest challenges that I see people deal with is that they have resigned themselves to their circumstances. They proclaim that life it too hard and they haven’t got the right supports in place to assist them in moving forward and getting to a better place. This is simply an outdated pattern of being. It may have served a purpose at one point in their lives, but now it is causing more pain than good stuff. The first step toward a better and more fulfilling life is owning and committing to the possibility of it.
Take responsibility for your own happiness! You and only you alone determine your life – take charge of it now! Defy the odds…refuse to let the opinions of other’s run your life. Nobody tells you who to be and how to be except yourself – own this role with determination and certainty.
Be courageous in your pursuit of happiness. Quit complaining and start moving in the direction of your dreams!!